Monday, 2 June 2014

The Sex Education Bogeyman - How to REALLY Protect One's Children

You know something - I get a little bit sick at the MADNESS of overscrupulosity and 'new 'Catholic' puritanism' which is dangerously counter-productive and jeopardises our children's safety, security and well-being.

Parents please: Get this into your heads - this prevailing  mentality of denying children an integrated, comprehensive sex-education is the equivalent of banning scary stories from children because they get nightmares - or banning romances from girls because they make them cry...

GK Chesterton tells us that Fairy Tales don't tell children that monsters exist - a child already knows monsters exist - what Fairy Tales do is tell them that monsters can be killed!

Kids will learn all about sex from somewhere
So [regrettably] this demands we commit a pre-emptive strike against it...like an inoculation

When the adversity of impurity, the promotion of indiscriminate sexual licence and the profusion of pornography and pornographic ideological propaganda endorsing 'sexual and reproductive freedom' is at every step - a child needs to understand the evil, the lies, the folly and the integrity and dignity [and overwhelming rewards] of purity and chastity

Evil is out there - pornography is at every turn -
...and I am not referring to the quite innocuous videos of men and women without any clothes on engaging in horizontal shenanigans
The actual pornography is the LEAST of our worries - at least for all its sinful depravity it has an honesty in that it is what it portrays...
it's the diabolically lethal pornographic mentality which jeopardises our kids' futures!!

It's the total lack of moral compass and an education system which endorses endemic promiscuity without any responsibility for oneself or anyone else...
a media and culture which says do what you want any way you want to whoever you want...
...and a sex-ed system that not only agrees - it provides the manuals and the condoms and says 'go for it'....
The facts are simple - you CANNOT protect them from these lies, these evils, these risks.

You cannot watch over them 24-7
you can't wrap them in cotton wool with blindfolds and earplugs until they reach 35
You can't defend them - they cannot defend themselves
Therefore you protect them - by letting them protect themselves....
You teach them how to fight it...
You get to them first..with the truth about it all
you teach them everything...with intelligence, integrity and love
I agree - it's too early for them to be taught about 'that sort of thing'
But unfortunately we don't make the rules any more
- and no amount of censored home-schooling or internet safeguards or throwing the TV on the rubbish heap - is going to stop the dangerously potentially corrupting evil getting through to them...
- therefore while previously we might not have wanted a child touching sharp objects...
...we're instead compelled to teach them how to use a sword

We can't treat our baa-lambs like baa-lambs when the wolves are at the door and never sleep - but you have to...

Therefore you are forced to educate them with the truth with an accompanying morality - and all the real reasons why...yes they are being forced to grow up - but it's not our fault that the majority of grown-up role models are still kids!
Teach your child how to fight
If you don't - they will get to them some how
vaccinate them against the moral disease...
...then you have given them a fighting chance.


Scandal and irresponsibility?
I'll throw that back at you and suggest that people supporting the position of
'save the children - hide them away from the big bad world until it's too late'

...stand indicted of gross dereliction of parental responsibility and downright negligence.

...and of a corruption of children's minds into thinking that sex is sordid, salacious and intrinsically pornographic and some ineffably mysterious forbidden fruit which they must taste at the first opportunity..

I think some might need to draw back the chintzy curtains and realise what the poor little baa-lambs have to endure out there on a daily basis...it is not an Enid Blyton world of happy pixies in tinkly-winkly-land....
It's deplorable, corrupting, shallow, toxic...
..and they need to be able to fight it

You can protect childhood innocence - well into adulthood - if you provide a sincere, authentic well-informed TRUTHFUL upbringing for your children...talking about sex as a private, personally important and wonderfully 'sacred' thing as it's intrinsically linked to life - from the earliest age in a simplistic basic language the child will understand...which develops along with the child's level of understanding and wanting to understand...
That's being responsible..
Nothing becomes smutty or prurient or self-indulgent

What happens is the child develops almost a mystical code of conduct and mutual understanding - a moral empathy with the parent - that the world out there is frankly childish and pathetic and reckless and irresponsible...

...one more thing:
Don't you think the almost-exclusive bias towards opposing visual pornography is:
a] Sexist..in that
b] It displays a lethally dangerous ignorance of the vast range of almost exclusively female-oriented pornographic 'literature' from teenage 'chick-lit' to 'erotic fantasy fiction'
Teenage lads might scan some gaudy gratuitously misogynistic rag laden with pneumatic peroxides who'll catch their death...which might raise their hormone levels for a few minutes...
But have you any idea what little Jocasta's reading under your very nose?
'Romances' and teen magazines and true-life stories mags more redolent of Emmanuelle in Bangkok & 120 days in sodom...
Parents glibly oblivious to 50 shades of Grey because it's called 50 hints of pink with a grinning 'butter wouldn't melt' girl next door-type on the cover...
What's more likely to result in psychological abuse or the actuation of the lingered-over fantasies?

It's so ironic that the yummy mummies are handwringing and rending their garments at finding a copy of big jugs monthly in Lysander's sock drawer...
...yet they'll then say how teenage girls are so much easier to parent as Lucinda spends most of her time voraciously reading
her Love stories???!!
Be a parent - or get out of the way.

 I am all for childlike innocence - one that can be both possessed a reclaimed [after falling] for a lifetime...but that requires an ability to protect and defend itself...and knowledge, insight and wisdom need to be garnered...long lessons need to be learned A teenager's life is a living hell if they're terrified of themselves...but they're halfway out of the darkness if they are mature enough to be able to laugh at themselves...that requires informed understanding.
Childish 'innocence' - being ignorant and oblivious - it lethal..

It can crack over time or shatter in an instant
....and the child - even if they're way past puberty - can be left bereft, vulnerable, helpless and despondent...

I'm always amazed at how parents can be hoodwinked by the overwhelming charity and concern of their children to not bother them or worry them about what they've discovered on the playground or what schoolfriends were discussing in graphic detail or what was being shared around during lunchbreak - the half-truths, fallacies, superstitions or the vile pornography inveigling its way into them via 'comedy' or far-from-social media....

Some kids..no matter how naughty or tricky - can be guileless and innocent beyond their years...
and the child who seems worldly-wise and self-assured can be utterly oblivious to relationship or sexual issues as it simply never crossed their path...
Some who look like they wouldn't say boo to a goose can know everything and anything and have little reticence in spreading their version of 'being grown up' to all and sundry...
Kids are different - and although you can assure yourself you know what your kids are like - appearances can be very deceptive in regard to other people's kids...and you can't afford to rely on trust or expect your own chid to report back to you potentially embarrassing scenarios where they're ridiculed as a baby for not knowing what an x,y or z is...

Therefore - you spend a whole lifetime preparing the way for them to retain and protect that childlike [not childish] innocence.
Where in facing what others say they have that inner strength , knowledge and confidence to be able to take the insults and derision like water off a duck's back...
They can't get truly hurt - if they know better!!!
But irrevocable damage can be wrought at an early age by the unimaginable cruelty and mockery of children...wounds that can last a lifetime

No-one is suggesting that kids should fit in to an adult world
- I'm suggesting that kids should be allowed to live safely in their own world
- one where they can say - at no matter what pernicious evil is thrust upon them against their will - "Oh look a penis in a vagina - oh look two shirtless men kissing - oh look someone's texted me a link to 'sorority girls enjoy a wet visit from the plumber' - oh look a website where forty year old women pretend to be naughty schoolgirls - big deal! - boring! - now where's my comic book/homework/video game/football stickers?"

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